Lent 5A

John 11:1-45

Hearing the gospel this time, what caught me was how Martha and then Mary say the exact same thing to Jesus. Whether it was tinged with grief or laced with accusation, they say,

“Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

Our Psalm for today also gives voice to the despair we feel in times of loss. “Out of the depths I cry to you, O Lord; O Lord, hear my voice!”

I expect most of us have at some point in our lives said,

“God , if you had been here, this horrible, very bad thing wouldn’t have happened.”

or

“God, where are you? Because if you were here this horrible, very bad thing wouldn’t be happening.” To me, to us, to the person or people I love.

It’s a natural human response. The question of why bad things happen is a common one, and I don’t pretend I can answer it. We could have a theological discussion about humanity’s free will or about God’s permissive will or we could talk about the science of how weather and disease wreak havoc in our lives. But I doubt we’d get to a satisfactory answer.

But faith isn’t about having all the answers. Faith is believing God’s Word and trusting in the promises given to us by God.

In John’s Gospel, especially, believing means being in relationship, or knowing, God. Jesus isn’t transactional. Jesus is relational.

When Nicodemus came to see Jesus at night, and the Samaritan woman met him at the well, and the man who was born blind was healed, Jesus took time to talk with them, to answer their questions and to invite them into a deeper relationship.

In today’s gospel, we see Jesus motivated by relationship. Lazarus and his sisters Mary and Martha were Jesus’ friends. John bears witness to their friendship when he writes that the sisters sent a message to Jesus about Lazarus calling him “the one that you love” and when Jesus speaks to the disciples about returning to Judea and calls Lazarus a friend.

And, just as we want to go and be with the people we love when they are hurting, Jesus goes to Judea because his friend Lazarus has died.

But when Jesus arrives, the sisters are angry with him and that’s when they make their accusation, or perhaps their lament. But even in their despair, Martha makes the confession that Jesus is the Messiah, and Mary kneels at his feet. They do not grieve without hope, because Jesus is the source of their hope.

And, when Jesus speaks to the sisters, he doesn’t hide his own sorrow at seeing their suffering. Seeing the pain caused by the death of his friend, John tells us that Jesus “was greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved.” (11:33) And when he sees where Lazarus was buried, he weeps.

I’m sure that Jesus wept because his friends were suffering.

But what else is he weeping for?

Is he weeping because while Lazarus will be resuscitated this time, Jesus knows that he cannot take death away permanently? [i] He cannot stop the suffering and the emptiness that comes with grief.

Is he weeping because he knows what is ahead? While he dismissed the other disciples’ concerns when they returned to Judea, Jesus must have known that the people who tried to stone him (John 10:31) were still there in Jerusalem and that he is also on his way to his own death. Next Sunday we will celebrate Palm Sunday and his triumphant entry in Jerusalem, before we enter into Holy Week and see him arrested and crucified.

Watching Jesus weep, I wonder what we weep for, and for what do we grieve today? 

I wrote these words yesterday. We had already had one death in our congregation this week and now we've had another. 

Certainly, we weep when a loved one dies. We weep because our lives are emptier because they are absent. And we lament the loss of what won’t be. Of the celebrations and milestones that are lost.

We weep when a beloved is hurting, and we cannot fix it. We weep because of our helplessness.

We weep when we receive bad news or experience pain.

We weep at the terror of war and the destruction of floods and the horrible ways we inflict pain on one another.

Our tears, like the ones Jesus shed, are testament to the love we have for one another.

And like Mary and Martha, our grief is not without hope because the source of our hope is Jesus.

Today’s Gospel assures us that we worship a God who is fully God and fully incarnate, fully divine and fully human, who weeps and comes alongside us when we are hurting.

Today, during Holy Communion we have prayer ministers present to pray with you and I invite you to bring your grief to them. Follow the witness we have from the psalmist and in Jesus, Martha and Mary, and cry out to God, not as one without hope, but as one whose hope is in Jesus.

Let us pray…[ii]

Good and gracious God,

From the beginning you wired us for friendship, community and for belonging.

When we suffer loss and grief, remind us that you share our sorrow and that we are not alone in the heaviness of it all.

Draw us to you and into community with one another that all will know the hope found in You.

We pray in Jesus’ name.

Amen.

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[i] Karoline Lewis. “Sermon Brainwave” Luther Seminary.

[ii] Adapted from “Seeking: Can these bones live?”, Fifth Week of Lent, A Sanctified Art.